2011 is what you’re seeing in the mirror. It’s behind us now. All the good stuff, the mistakes, the missteps, the wins and the losses. We have our memories and lessons learned or to be learned. What will you do differently or the same? Will you finally have that much needed honest conversation with that someone who behaves badly or crosses your boundaries? Which, will win out? Your values or the fear of offending or losing a relationship? How can you tell your truth, your story, without making the other person defensive? Is it possible to remove your filter and really see this “intolerable” person (or their behavior) with compassion, love and perhaps humor?

New 2012 Perspective: 

Self Development:

  • Choose to be a happy person.  Move on from disappointments.
  • Find three things to be grateful for everyday and have a good laugh, even if it’s at yourself.
  • Let go of trying to figure it all out and allow yourself to be… (with all your emotions).
  • Gather awareness about what is making you mildly insane and congratulate yourself on attaining that “aha” moment. Also, have a good laugh.
  • Notice your unconscious patterns of resistance and how they can be transformed into a source of energy.

Other People:

  • Decide on a time when you are in a neutral frame of mind and there’s no “heat” in the moment before confronting a difficult person or situation.
  • Approach a conversation with an open mind and be willing to be wrong.
  • Use a disarming strategy: If the person is oppositional, try agreeing, and vigorously, with what they’re saying. This approach diffuses most objections.
  • Have a clear intention of coming to an agreement and envision yourself already having a different outcome. Keep working on the agreement to keep it on track.

The World:

  • People know when you’re authentic. Find that voice and use it often.
  • Say, “I love you” often, and indiscriminately throughout the year.
  • There are people in your life, who are in a place of pain, doubt or isolation. Visit them often.
  • Your personal change is not sustainable without addressing and finding support from your environment, habitat, surroundings.
  • Expect great things to happen.

“Human life runs its course in the metamorphosis between receiving and giving.” — Goethe

Leave a comment for me.

  1. Tell me, what moved you the most this year?
  2. What strengths did you discover from your losses?
  3. What new insights have you gain?

What do you like most about the weekly Fresh Starts?  What themes do you enjoy the most? 

 My gift videos to you for an inspired 2012:

  1. Rules for being human.
  2. If you’ve never failed, you’ve never lived.
  3. Think different.
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